Love Lies Part 2

Notes from Part 2 of my church's Love Lies Series:
Memorable quote: "sex makes little kids and little kids makes little sex"


Lie3: My Spouse Will Complete Me

• World view: 2 people face to face, love each other, consumed with each other.
• vs. Bible view: two people shoulder to shoulder in mission together
• Adam is accountable to God to love Eve and accountable for Eve's sin.
• For guys: most women have not been loved well.
• So love them like Jeuss - sacrifice most, forgive first.
• Means leadership - like dancing: someone has to lead, but both involved.
• Marriage equals one body.  Not equivalent, but fit together.
• Oneness: so important that you leave your father and mother
• Passion/romance + covenant (vow, decision/choice)
• Shift functional allegiance to husband.
• Don't define self by career
• Wife: give best to spouse, not children (doesn't mean neglect kids)
• Marriage is permanent - cleave ("super glue")
• Insert "Divorce will never be an option" in your marriage vow
• Marriage is to be intimate "soul mingling"
• Marriage starts with God = worship
• if start with spouse = codependency 
• if start with self = selfishness
• Marriage is about worship
• Put on earth not to marry, but for worship

Lie4: Sex is Easy

• Lies:
• sex is simply an appetite
• sex is just physical (it's also emotional)
• 1st corinthian 6:18 - sin against own body (referring to sexual abuse)
• sex strengthen relationships but also clouds judgement.  Gives a false sense of closeness.
• Lie: Marriage will satisfy all desires
• Memorable quote2:
• Girls think marriage is about love, romance, security
• Guys think marriage is about "boom-chicka-wow-wow"
• People look to sex for something only God can give.  It's more than what sex can give.
• Marriage is a place where sex is sanctified.
• Lie: God sets up unrealistic laws
• Truth is what God sets up
• Are we a caretaker of our own needs (we as God) vs. God needs
• If we are taker of our own needs, we indulge in own sex desires.
• If we are caretaker of God needs, we submit desires to God, repent/confess, and practice fidelity and purity; practice sex freely in marriage.
• Your sex problem is a God problem. 
• Truth:
• God created you uniquely sexual
• Proverb 5:18-19 Be intoxicated by your wife and tell them
• affirmation
• seek to be attractive for your spouse
• Sex is a good gift from God
• Sexual fulfillment is possible (most fulfilled = 50-59 married ppl)
• talk about it
• spend time to stay connected
• creativity
• self sacrifice: delight vs. demand from each other
• Road blocks: communication (emotion, belief of God/one another)