Retreat 2025

 Trinity pines

Failure John 21: 1-19

What do people typically do when people fail: 

1) We go back to the familiar. What we knew. Eg in John: fishing. 

After becoming Christian, it gets harder, more convicted, maybe conflict in church, falling out of relationship...then maybe just want to call out old college groups, old friends, go back to what they knew before. When Jesus died, disciples: Go back to fishing. "It's over. Lets go fishing. But caught nothing." 

Cast your net on to the other side... like "did you turn it on? 🤔" 

When they went back to what they were good at, the Lord graciously draws Peter back to Him and reveals himself. Failure is seeing Jesus in a new setting. Is Jesus still gracious and loving when we are the bottom. The more we fail, the more Jesus reveals himself. Show mercy, love. 

Asked Peter do you love me? (Diff words of love, flock/sheep). Jesus is trying to bring him back to the point of failure. Jesus is maneuvering Peter back to the night when he failed Jesus. Charcoal fire: only other time mentioned was John 18 when Peter denied knowing Jesus 3 times. So Jesus asking if Peter lives 3 times matches the 3 times of denying Jesus. Bringing Peter back to the moment of failure so we can feel full restoration. When feel full weight of our failure, so we can feel fullness of grace, salvation, forgiveness. 

Apologize in our culture is downplaying the wrong: im sorry. No worries, no biggie, dont even mention it. But Biblical way is opposite: you really screwed up, that was wrong...but in Christ you are forgiven. 

So we can experience fullness of forgiveness. Counseling is what this is about. Take months to confront memory/reality. Hard because everything about us don't want to go back to that moment. 

4 statements Jesus says:

1) How's that working for you?

Not why you doing that? 

Its a great counseling technique? 

Someone can being doing something harmful for career or relationship and want to control them.... J just asks how is that happening for you? Is it actually good? 

I want to spare Christians all the paths to failure, but that's not how it works...

2) I have an idea. You can try going back to church? When you are fully out of options... 

Be open when they are willing.

3) Bring me what you have. 

Here: fish

Jesus already had fire, fish, bread. Doesn't need it, but he invites us to participate. Do together as disciple.

Not perfect, but bring what you do have. Eg ppl think not good enough to go to church, but ask them to bring themselves anyways. 

4) Let's eat together. 

Something about food and fellowship. 

Many times forgive, but dont hang out. Forgive, but not want to be same small group/sit together. But when Jesus restores us, he goes back to eating and same table. Lord specific about going to tables of tax collectors, etc. 

When we hit rock bottom, he will say these 4 things. 

Feel full weight of our failure so we can celebrate the great joy of our salvation. 

Pruning: 

When do we need pruning? 

Can be pruning what we see as good things in our life, but allow us to be more fruitful. Be better at making disciples. 

W 3y-4y

 3 is such a cute and funny age! Now W can express himself, but doesn't quite understand everything. It's fun to see his little brain piecing everything together and discovering new things and starting to understand more things. 

11/10/24 3 and 2.5mo

He has a better understanding of time and so now we can say we will do something later. But at the same time, he is remembering more, so we have to follow through when we say we will do something after a nap or after a meal. 

He started holding a pencil correctly after AB corrected him. Oh man...just when I corrected him, he stopped wanting to learn..only agreed to change grip when AB also corrected him. But unfortunately, AB's spatially challenged, so couldn't show him the right grip. 😅 Maybe the drawing class at his school helped too. Now he can roughly color in the lines. 

In recent teacher parent conference, teacher said he likes coloring and magnetic toys. He is social and behaves well. One of her best students! Yay! Surprised to hear he also eats about as much as other kids, but certain foods he doesn't eat like meatballs. It's funny he never has tantrums around his teachers and just saves it for us - even on the no nap days. 

We've been bribing him with an outside walk if he naps. But most effective seems to be threatening to take away his bunny. 

11/11/24

Sometimes I spy on W when he sleeps. And sometimes I catch him sleeping with both hands behind his head like he is lounging. Lol. Other times we hear a big thump! -he fell off the floor mattress! And yet he continues to sleep on. Other times he sits up, looks confused, and goes back to sleep. It's funny he puts his entire body on the pillow. 

12/2/24

W made an ornament (free kids workshop from home depot first sat of the month usually), and you can put a small picture in it. When nainai asked him what picture do you want in it? A picture of you? W responded: Mommy and daddy. <3 So sweet!

12/15/24 3y3mo

I went to MZ's fineral, and so AB had to take care of J and W by himself. He took them to in laws place, and that was a lot of help, but tiring for W and in laws. First time away from J (and W). 😢

Into legos. Like telling stories about legos: this is W's room, this is Baba's room...

Talking about classmates: sometimes kids can be bad. Like DL (kid in his school), he pulled a fire alarm. Ab: but DL is usually good. 

These were what W said at this past weekend's visit.

He asked YeYe: Why don't you park the car in the garage? YeYe said I have too many things in there.

After showing the stone wall with poo poo, and told him the Egyptian goose's visit, he asked : Why his friend did not come to join him?

We praised him for making a very impressive Lego bldg, he said: I can make it even more beautiful. 

We mentioned NB, he asked who is N, AB said my brother, your uncle. He asked is uncle N a grown up? AB: yes. W: so he goes to work. Not go to school. Does Uncle N have children?

1/4/25 

Some of my favorite moments with W: 

*When he says "mommy" in a sweet and loving way and gives me a hug. 

*When i was feeling sick and he asked me what's wrong and he gave me a hug.

Went to Seattle area to visit grandparents:

*AB's brother and family drive up from Portland. Chaos with 4 kids under 4 in the house. Brother also came back for a week while he's teaching English in Spain. 

*Went sledding at Franklin Falls Sno- park.  Road before said closed on Google but actually fine to drive. We thought we played on the kids sledding area, but it was the parking lot. 

*Went to bellevue square mall indoor playground and it was packed. 

*Went to pike place market via light rail. Initially not many people because we were really early, but got busy quickly. The new waterfront is pretty cool. Small outdoor play place. Need to remember to book aquarium tickets ahead of time next time. 

*Mom cooked for 11 people for 5 days. So much good food and so much work. 

1/27/25 

He will often say "yesterday..." ...which means sometime in the past. 

We were trying to put together some tracks for him today. He likes to say, "Probably..." like "Probably we can do this." Or "Probably we can put this here."  Seemingly like he knows what he's doing, when he has no idea. Haha

He would sometimes come home with a new Chinese phrase. We think he's learning Chinese from his friend CW at school who only speaks Chinese. 

2/18/25 

We finally took off wes' diaper overnight since he had been dry for several days in a row. And we've been pleasantly surprised that he has stayed dry. Maybe he doesn't drink enough fluids, but he kind of slowed down the amount of milk he drinks at night before bed. 

4/23/25

Lol...today I forgot to put pants on W before going to school. His shirt was kind of long, but still...didn't realize till we were at school and he came out of the car. Told him to hide in the bathroom while I went to get pants from school backup stash..but director still saw him without pants. 😅

5/4/25 

A friend said advice from an elder is that family should be overwhelmingly affirming. Hm, wonder if our family is more affirming than disciplining?

W showing some impressive memory: Christmas photo reminded him of model trains at second baptist. 

5/26 W had his first night time bedwetting last night. So weird... is it bc we went on a trip? Or he was too tired? Drank too much water? Stayed up too late before going to bed as he rolled around? Dont know...thank Goodness for waterproof mattress covers! Just as I thought we were not going to have bedwetting....

5/21/25

W's dream job is to be a baba (dad) lol.

8/14/25

W made a good friend for the summer (lucas), but the friend is going to another school for the fall. W has been enjoying the afternoon enrichment classes. Although communication isn't the best about what he does at the school, he's really enjoying the afternoon enrichment classes like soccer shots, cooking class, silly science.

W is excited about his birthday. He's been talking about it for more than 3 months. 

He loves trains right now. We got a big book all about trains (history, construction, types, etc.) from the library and he's been obsessed. He keeps on asking why he can't have a train (although he does have some at home, like wooden ones but not any with large long tracks). We thought there's no need because he has tracks at grandparents' places. 

Funny quotes: 

W: For nap time, you have to close your eyes.

When we moved W to a floor bed and locked the door when he goes to sleep:

W: Don't close the door so I can go in and out. 

When shown a map of Taiwan:

W: Baba, can we swim there?

W: Baba you go to work to get some money so we can go to HEB to get some food?

W says "when its gotta be clean, it's gotta be tide" because there are ads on our YouTube haha

W: The other mamas and babas are not proud.

Aw (uncle): I'm going to get you!

W: stop, you can not play with me, I am not a toy. 

W: Baba, I'm too tired for sleep time! 

JN: What does Jasper like to play with?

W: Baby toys

JN: Do you help carry the baby?

W: No, I'm too small

1 yr after fall from chair incident:

Yw: We are going to Naomi's house today! 

W: I will not stand on Naomi's chair today.

Ab: what kind of animal is baby J like?

W: A dinosaur

Ab: what kind of dinosaur?

W: A nice one

What does your costume say?

W: Stop, slow, go, and then something.

Today W put on his spider ring and said, "I'm married!" And when AB asked to who? W said, "To Naomi" 🤣

W: I like my baby!

Playing with Dr set:

W: Oh no your blood pressure is too high!

Ab: Oh no! What should I do?

W: You need to get 5 shots! Be strong! 

W: We need to get m&m yogurt and salad. We only need m&m yogurt.

Ab: what if I want to eat some broccoli? Is that ok?

W: that's ok.

When w saw me wearing a mask and I told him bc I was sick:

W: mama, why are you always sick? (Explained I saw a lot of sick kids).

W: If I'm lost and a policeman asks me where do you live? I tell him 5678 Mayfay St.

W: I say why at everything.

W: Where's my baby?

W saw R logo on AB's shirt, and said, "Baba, that's by the number in front of yeye nainai's house."

Ab and w were doing the big united states puzzle and nainai asked: W, Do you know where you are born? W: Yes, hospital!

W started saying rule number 1, rule number 2, like don't break this, no hitting, etc. 

W: Baba, will you love me if I am bad and if I am good?

Ab: ya, I will always love you

W: I will always love you too.

There was an olive in the salad.

Ab: Do you like olive?

W: Ya, I like all of it!

W: Baba, when I sleep a lot and eat a lot I can grow really big and touch the moon!

Ab: no W, the moon is so far away, you can't touch it. 

W: ??? Sometimes it gets bigger and smaller

Ab: you know the moon goes around the earth

W: what is the earth?

Ab: It's what we live on

W: Does Yeye Nainai live on earth?

Ab: yes

W saw a plaque that's for Mr. Hill at the park.

W: Where's is Mr. Hill

Ab: he died, so his body is in the ground.

W: he died???

Ab: Ya, when you get older, or get really sick, then you die. Everyone will die.

W: I will die too?

Ab: yes, but you are really young so you will not get old for a really long time.

W: I don't want to be in the ground.

Ab: that's why we have to eat healthy and get good sleep. 

W: did Mr. Hill have a family?

Ab: ya he had a family 

Ab: If you eat healthy and sleep well, then you won't get sick.

W: but I am sick right now.

Yw: who do you want to pray for?

W: my friends, I missed

W: Mama, why is your friend always sick?

Kp: Was it christmas at your home?

W: Sometimes it's Christmas, not always. 

Breakfast time:

W: I'm not hungry now, but I'll be hungry in cooking class. 

Ab: Oh, your poo poo is loose.

W: I probably ate something bad. Probably garlic. I don't know.

W: Daniel is going to Tony Tonio

Ab: San antonio?

W: yes!

W: I want to find the brown person (talking about a girl who wasn't really brown...but i suppose everyone is dark skinned compared to w)

W: If I eat this and the parfait, my tummy will explode!

W: mama, I want to see God

Ab: yes, when we die, we will go to heaven and see God.

Yw: eat some fei ro (fat meat in Chinese)

W: "fei ro, fei ro, let my people go! (Think Pharoah, Pharoah, let my people go)

Ab: the apple you chose is tasty!

W: It's too tasty! I don't like too tasty!

W: There will be 3 Daddys

Ab: 3 Daddys? You mean you and Jasper will be daddys? Then I will be a grandfather!

Ab: We are going to a wedding, do you know what happens at a wedding?

W: *I don't know gesture*

Ab: We eat food, and there is dancing...

W: And rocks to sit on! And we go wo wo wo and balance and fall!

Ab: yes...some weddings have rocks...

Sees JB dressed up in tie and dress shirt for family dedication

WB: I want to dress up as a robot!

I almost forgot to buckle W:

W: if you forget to buckle me, I will be gone!

YW: If you are gone, I would be so sad!

W: If I fall out, A car would crush me, and there would be no Wesley!

W: Im faster than you!

Ab: why?

W: Because you are too old.

W: Im not a fan of this. (Apparently I say this all the time)

W: I dont want them to visit.

Ab: why?

W: Because I will be tired

Ab: If you are tired, you can rest

W: But they will find me, and say "W do you want to play?" And I'll say "yes!"

W: Baba you are going to die soon.

AB: *shocked, gasped* Why?

W: Because you are getting old!

AB: Im not that old! Im going to live to 100! And im only 40.

W (in robotic voice): Situation...narval

Yw: isn't it supposed to be normal?

W: no, the robot at school says situation narval.

W: When I bless you, I cannot see (w calls sneezes bless yous)

W: Do bat (pretending to be flying bat) and bat (pretending to swing a bat) rhyme?

Ab: you goof ball!

W: im not a goofball, im a serious boy!

Ab: Do you know how to go back home?

W: you turn this way and this way and then you have arrived!

Ab: but what about from far away?

w: i dont know from far away. 

Ab: sometimes baba and mama get lost, we use a map!

W: if i get lost, ill find a policeman. The policeman will help me, they have a map.

Ab: you dont want to be too far from mama and baba

w: when i get angry, i go to my room. 

Talking about when we went to France (before W was born):

W: I was dead.

Yw: do you know why God loves us?

W: He washed away our sins

Yw: yes he washed away our sins, but do you know why he loves us? It's because he made us!

W: but you made me! 

Yw: Yes, but God made it all happen.

W: He pumped me out of your tummy. Your uterus.

W: Oh! J has a tooth!

Yw/AB: Oh really?

W: Oh, it gone away. It was a rice. 

W didn't want to go to school

Ab: why dont you wanna go to school?

W: Because I really really love you 💔 

4yo W to dad: Im almost bigger than you!

We went to vote, and halfway through, Ab's machine went blank...bc W unplugged it!

J 1st year

 J was born 5/30/24 7lb 13oz.

What a cutie! So much hair! Very serious expression in the beginning, and then just slept the entire first day. Not even opening his eyes to feed. He had a good suck and latched ok initially, but then it seemed like he was too lazy to open his mouth wide. 

6/7/24 

Taking of J isn't too bad. He sleeps a lot and eats pretty well most of the time by bottle. Trying to increase milk supply by pumping after breastfeeding and when he bottle feeds. 

Main issue I have now is nausea, stomach fullness/discomfort, and belching whenever I try to sleep/lie down. I've tried Tums, pepcid, and sleeping with head of bed elevated. After I wake up is the worst. And I get a little better after eating a little bit. When its at its worst, I get these dull colicky contraction-like pains in my epigastric area. It would come every few minutes. Hope its not gallstones. But I also get belching with those pains, so i dont think its gallstones. Fits more with reflux. The contraction-like pain also resolves after a bm. Prob will need an appointment. 

Turns out due to constipation. Need more fiber and water! Too backed up. Already taking 1 capful of miralax daily, but will increase to 2. 

9d: 

Pumping with new lansinoh duo discreet wearable pump has been a game changer. What used to be an hour ordeal now takes 20min bc I can pump 15-20min and then just put it back in the fridge. No need for attaching parts or changing to pumping bra. Don't even use my spectra anymore. My milk has also come in faster. Now pumping 1.5-3oz. And also J is able to take in 2 oz when we did a weighted feed. Supplementing aggressively in the beginning seemed to help. 

Also took J out for the first time while dropping W off at school. Everyone was oooing and aaahing about how tiny J was. 

14d: 

Looks like my bleeding may have stopped! But my bowels are still not really moving.  Having to take a lot of miralax.  Tried to eran it a bit but then no bm today, so having to take a colace.  Still waking up with hungar pains, but not as bad as before. It's tough my mom keeps on offering me soup and very low calorie items with the thought that they are good for recovery, but I keep on worrying about getting hungar pains. 

J is doing mostly bf during the day and we give pumped milk during the night. Mom has been so helpful doing the night shift from 9p to 5a. Hard to sleep with j around bc he keeps on making eheh noise during sleep. One time he slept 6 hrs without eating! Almost back to birth weight. 

6/14 15 days: 

Went to 2 week appointment, yay back to birth weight and beyond: 8lb. Got his nbs, and went home. 

6/22/24 3 weeks

Thought bleeding stopped, but still a little spotting restarted...it never ends! 

J doesn't seem to be taking much from breastfeeding anymore. He seems really hungry afterwards, but only takes 1oz and falls asleep and then wakes up soon to feed. Sometimes sleeps for a while. Is it because he ate enough or he just got super tired from bf? Hard to say.... maybe do more weighted feeds? 

Oh man!!! All I did was go take a shower and then I forgot to tell my parents not to bottle feed him so I can try bf, and I come back and they are feeding him again. Sighs...can't sleep and can't shower ever during the day!  After a few min I'm sure it's not gonna seem like such a big deal. 🤦But makes me so stressed, sad, and want to cry right now. Cuz now if he's done eating before I finish pumping, I'm not going to have enough milk got the next feed and will have to bottle feed again. Or at least, that's what my mind is thinking. 

I hate pumping. Even with the wearable pump that's a thousand times easier, it's still not fun. 

6/24 3 week

I would like to breastfeed if possible, but J doesn't seem to effectively take in milk and just sleep/comfort suck. And gets too tired and just sleep after. Tried doing weighted feeds. At 1.5 weeks it seemed like he got 2 oz after an hour. But now it seems like he only gets 1-1.5 oz. In the morning. Afternoon he refuses to even try to breastfeed and cries until we give a bottle. 

Sometimes I feel ok. Sometimes I wanna cry because I just can't seem to bf...I feel so incompetent. 

Meanwhile, I domt feel like I can consult lactation bc last time we had seen one and they didn't help much. AB felt traumatized from lactation because W weight got so low, the attempts at latching correctly cause W to cry so hard, and subsequently, me. I'm sure if I mentioned consulting one, AB would refuse immediately. 

Also, I think a big part is being a pediatrician makes me feel extra incompetent. I don't think I know of any pediatricians who can't breastfeed. I had come to terms with it last time, and before birth, but I think old feelings creeping up. 

6/30/24 1 month

We made it to 1 month! Wow it passed pretty quickly. With my mom's help at night, I got much better sleep and was able to pass the time during feeds, burps, and pumping with Netflix, watching Asian drama, This is Us and How I Met Your Mother. 

J can now focus on our face and very infrequently coo. During tummy time he sometimes pushes himself over the boppy, and has turned over too. So far he is a pretty chill baby except for a lot of gas at night that makes it a little hard for him to sleep well. Calms down when we hold him. He is so cuddly I want to hold him all the time. But then don't want to get into a bad habit where he falls asleep only in our arms. 

Breastfeeding isn't going very well, but I have gotten over it and come to terms with pumping for a little bit. At least this time pumping is so much easier with the wearable. It's still a little troublesome to being places, but doable and takes less space. 

7/19/24 1.5mo

We had our first lunch date out with j To thai bistro. J behaved very well! 

Sometimes jay will sleep a very long time now from approx 1 to 7a. He Would eat quite a lot before he goes to sleep around eight or nine. In fact, during the day, he's quite frequently probably because he doesn't eat that much at night. He makes a lot of grunty noises like he has gas at night, time, which makes it a little hard for us to sleep. And sometimes we mistaken the gas sounds for hunger sounds. 

There's been a few rare smiles in his sleep. I have yet to see him smile a while awake. He has quite a bit of spit up. And sometimes vomits large amounts, probably because i'm too ambitious in feeding him. 

Now, i've leaned pumping to about five times a day. It's definitely much more freeing, So i've been able to go to an astros game, church, take wes to school, etc. However, despite my low expectations for breastfeeding, I still had a period of grieving when it didn't work out. 

This article explains very well, why women can be very unrational when it comes to breastfeeding. https://laleche.org.uk/five-ways-help-breastfeeding-doesnt-go-expected/

I still breastfeed about two or three times a day, only for 10-20min. At this point it's just comfort feeding.

7/26/24 almost 2 mo:

Sleep generally pretty good, sleeps 3-5 hours, which allows to do about 1 overnight feed. But sometimes he has a bad night and wakes up frequently. Taking shifts and sleeping in different rooms has helped us with sleep. I take 8p to 1a, drop him off with AB and AB takes care of the rest of the night. Because we both sleep between 8-9p, we generally get enough sleep. But also we can take a nap during the day. 

It's good to see back and forth cooing. But he hasn't smiled when awake. He often stares at the ceiling lights and fan. 

His feeding: tends to fall asleep and not burp, so it's hard to feed him a lot at once. Usually we give 2 oz increments. And close to night time he may take 2oz every 1 hour.

 Wish I read this before W was born! Haha: 

... about reality of newborns.

Excuse the language...

https://www.prosperitykitchen.co.uk/life-coaching/the-reality-of-a-new-born-baby/

8/5/24 2mo

I reduced pumping to 4 times a day.  Supply dropped, trying to let go.  Every time I drop a session I feel a little bad, but tons of relief.  So much more time.  And more time to cuddle and play with J. Remembering that having more time and less pumping is the best for our family. 

Rarely we catch a smile. But he is getting pretty good at cooing back and forth with us. He does some twitching when going to sleep. I think it's benign infantile sleep myoclonus. Will keep an eye on it.  

8/8 2.25mo

We are trying to spread out his feeds a bit, instead of every 1.5-2hrs. But he will suck his hands and not eat. And sometimes gag on the bottle nipple. So strange. We decided to try to go back to conotomo since I'm not really bf anymore. Maybe once a day one time. Also strange is he only eats 1.5-2oz during the day, then towards end of the day, he will chug all his quota for the day. Now about 27oz. 

Also I'm coming to terms with breastfeeding being bad for W, j, ab, and me. It's bad for everyone. It made my kids undernourished, they didn't latch well, didn't extract milk well, and they were too sleepy. And if anyone asks, did you see a lactation consultant, the answer is yes, and we were traumatized by most of them. W ended up getting jaundice and dropping to 5th percentile. So if anyone says breastfeeding is best, they are lying. Breastfeeding was the worst thing for my kids. 

8/19/24 2.5mo

Fortunately, J has been sleeping quite a good amount at night. He goes to sleep around 7 ot 8p, and I do a dream feed around 11:30p, and then ab will feed him around 6am. Sometimes at 6am he's still asleep. He's such a sleepy baby. Ab likes to call him an angel baby. Very different from W who needed constant stimulation, moving him around. J is such a chill baby. Except still has the occasional reflux/vomit at before bedtime at night. I think it's because we are mistaking his sleepy signs for hungar. 

I've also moved back to our bedroom and now AB sleeps upstairs. And we usually dont need to take a nap now. 

Baby J is holding his head up some when on his tummy. He will smile, but not much social smile. Sometimes. 

Tough part has been doing house fixing. Our AC drain pipe got clogged (thus time master), so took a whole morning and we finally got it unclogged with a shop vac. Meanwhile j got so upset cuz we just left him downstairs and he was crying so hard. At least we got it fixed! 

8/21/24

Wow, miracle. Baby J slept 11 hours 7:30p to 6a. It's possible we were all too tired and didn't hear him, but AB was awake from 1:30 to 2:30a and didn't hear him. Weird thing is after all that sleep, he didn't even eat that much in the morning. We were expecting him to be wolfing down his bottle. 🤷‍♀️

9/12/24 3mo and some

Started laughing when AB said "It's time for sleep NOW!" But it was a mixture of hiccuping and laughing. First time laughing awake. It was so cute!!! Got it on video and the interaction w/AB was so cute! 

He also sleeps around 8p and wakes up around 6:30-7am. With a dream feed around 10p. But sometimes he only eats 1-2oz. 

He likes to eat to sleep...hoping he doesn't get into a bad habit where he needs it. 

He has so many conversations now where he says things like ah-ooo. 

9/20/24 3.5mo

Rolled from front to back for the first time! It was almost like a fall bc of his heavy head. He also really laughed today. Seems like he will do it when he's extra tired. So cute...

11/11/24 5.5mo

He's pretty good at rolling back to front now.  A little trouble going back.  But he is content sleeping on his back. I tried giving a little diluted pb and banana. He hasn't figured out how to swallow it... haha. Mostly dribbles out. We are so lazy to start solids. 

He really likes to laugh when he is tired. Before he always got the hiccups. He especially laughs when we do peekaboo when he's tired. 

He will sleep about every 2-3 hrs, and sometimes sleeps 45min, but sometimes sleeps 2 hrs! He can sleep in the carseat, but doesn't usually tie two sleep cycles together so usually only 45min. He still eats pretty frequently - about every 3 hours. I know we are supposed to eat sleep play, but manh times he eats, plays, eats, and then sleeps. 🤷‍♀️

It's really amazing having a little human be completely dependent on you. Sooooo sweeeeet.  J is such a sweet awake. But I also love holding him when he's asleep. Unlike W, J let's me hold him! What a lovely, sweet, chill baby! Thank you God!  Is so fun watching him sleep and laugh and smile and become bigger.  Hope this continues... so sad these moments pass so quickly. 

We kinda neglected his costume for halloween... but found a small startrek onesie few days later. We also gave him his first haircut today! So much hair... 

Still doing dream feeds, but sometimes he doesn't drink any. But it's always so lovely to be able to hold him while he sleeps. Nothing more peaceful or precious. Watching him be in such a content state with his chubby cheeks and limp body. My precious baby!

11/17/24

Baby started babbling a lot. Especially when he's tired.

11/28/24 6mo:

Started having trouble going to sleep. He won't just quietly go to sleep anymore. We probably have to sleep train him. He would be obviously sleepy, but refuse to go to sleep and keep crying and crying. 

He is also sometimes getting on his knees in a crawling position. He can sit in tripod for a bit.

So funny: when he laughs too much, he will get hiccups. Just like me!

12/17/24

Baby J crawled for the first time!! Once forward with one leg, and once forward with the other! We were all very excited. He rotates around in a circle very easily.

12/21/24 almost 7mo

Babbling so much now: dididi, mamama, nainainai, ...

First word: "Nana"  aka banana. I regret giving him banana. Lol.

1/27/25 8mo

J has been crawling so much. And he tries to stand up now. He'll try to get on anything he can and try to get up with his hands. When we pick him up, he will kick kick kick with his little feet. So cute! Sometimes he's like a little lion trying to tear something with his mouth. He likes trying everything with his mouth. He's talking more now, saying things like mamamama,  babababa. And random sounds. When he was just starting to crawl, he was focusing on that and not very social. Now he's more social again. 

Ab reminds us it's easy to just try to move on from one day to the next and not enjoy the moment. Today we did so many fun things: we had alone time, we played an escape game online, we cooked yummy salmon and ate it, we played Zelda, hide and seek with W, we watched J laughing and trying to stand. Everyone ate pretty well and enjoyed the food. 

5/14/25

Can't believe J is almost a year! People keep asking if we will do anything for his bday, but we feel too tired... maybe something combined with big better W. 

Nick name: Belly Button Baby J

2/11/25 8mo

J's eyes remind me of Little tadpoles. And he has such beautiful flowy locks of hair. When he laughs and giggles, it's so much like baby W. So cute. 

He learned to drink from straw, so that's nice and convenient!

3/30/25 10mo

Jasper is 10 months old now!! He is cruising some, but doesn't seem to be close to walking yet (W was already walking by now). He's a hefty boy though! Average weight on growth chart, but definitely more than W! 

I'm reading Siblings without Rivalry. And I'm learning not to compare like above. Lol. Not putting them in roles. And loving them uniquely. 

5/15/25 11.5mo

Still no teeth! He's an avid stair climber, but doesn't know how to climb down. 

Occasionally J will say mama or baba here and there...but not consistent and not consistently with the right person. Also no pointing, waving or clapping. But he does bang 2 things together. Loves to hold on to the fake carrot and the fake pizza slice. And the diaper cream. 

5/30/25 1 yo!

Made it to 1 year old! We celebrated with grandparents with some muffin and banana bread. He loved them! A friend also got him a little Chantilly cake -so yummy! He ate the strawberry on top! 

Now j will say hiiiii. And has a distinct battle cry:  oooOOOoooOOOoooo

He will say mama...but seens like just when he wants something. And can kind of give hi five. He likes flipping pages of books and uses his pincer grasp to eat meat -his favorite! He can take a few steps from one furniture to another or to us and hes very good at walking holding on to one hand. 

Funny quotes:

AB: He was born with a mullet!

Smiled in his sleep. So cute! 

Yw: what is the barrier to giving him a bath? Not enough time awake. 

Ab: according to this chart this is his maximum time crying it should be 5 or 6 hours a day.

Yw: He's not even awake that many hours.

Neighbor: Does he have something in his mouth?

Yw: no, he just has big cheeks.

Seattle Things to Do

 

See Mt. Rainier on the flight there (like on the airplane). I forgot which side...but best view on the airplane.

* Seattle center. It's got a lot of stuff there: MoPop (museum of pop culture)- it just looks really cool. That's also where you'll find the Space Needle, Chihuly museum of Glass, science center, childrens museum, monorail, key arena, some pavilions/theaters...sometimes they have events there, but it depends. I guess this is more touristy: http://www.seattlecenter.com/events/default.asp

* Pike place is kinda fun - touristy, and kinda like quincy market. First Starbucks and Seattle clam chowder restaurant there -long lines. Also new waterfront walkway and aquarium.

* Boeing plant tour is really cool too - but it might be a bit far, as well as the museum of flight. And I think Boeing doesnt do tours anymore?

* Cool buildings in Seattle: Apple spheres building. Seattle library. All Apple employee parking lots are free on weekends and open to public.

* Seattle Art Museum - not good to visit with kids- but maybe theyll have fun at the outdoor art museum! - it's called the olympic sculpture garden.

* Apparently Kerry Park is where all the postcards are taken: http://www.google.com/images?q=seattle+kerry+park&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&ie=UTF-8&source=univ&ei=ywL3TM7xFYOB8gaYtO2nCQ&sa=X&oi=image_result_group&ct=title&resnum=1&ved=0CCEQsAQwAA&biw=1440&bih=750 Classic picture of Seattle downtown with space needle and Mt Rainier on clear day.

* It's fun to take the underground tour: takes you through what Seattle was like when it was...well, underneath what it is now. http://www.undergroundtour.com/

Hm....I've never been here, but I saw this place featured on travel channel regarding best donut shops: http://www.toppotdoughnuts.com/ looked interesting. 

Best fast food clam chowder in my opinion: Iver's. Also famous one called Pike place chowder near Pike place.

While in Seattle, eat salmon if you can!

May be fun to see the Ballard locks: during right season can see salmon swimming upstream. Also where they fill water in channels to move boats out to Puget Sound. 

Near University of WA you used to be able to rent canoes on Lake Washington. You can also canoe on Green Lake and at Log Boom Park. 

You can take the Ferries for fun. There can be long lines for cars. Easy to walk on.

It's kinda hard to park in seattle (except Apple parking on weekends). But in the city, there is plenty of public transportation. 

There's also a troll under some kind of bridge...i can't remember the bridge's name. it's just a sculpture.

Good hikes:

National parks: Mt. Rainier, Olympic Mountain ntnl pk, Cascades,

Mt. Baker, Mt. St. Helens, Mt. Pilchuck

Closer-ish hikes: Snoqualmie falls, Mt Si, Lake Serene, Rattlesnake Lake, Surprise Lake, Poopoo point, tiger mtn, Bridal veil falls, Blanca Lake, wallace falls, Rachel Lake/Rampart lakes, Mount Baring, Franklin Falls.

I think popular Chinese food is dintaifung, dough zone. And a lot of good Japanese. Sorry parents like to cook, so we don't usually go out to eat when we visit Seattle, so dont have restaurant recs. 

2024 Highlights/Events

 

* Pregnancy and birth of Jasper. Mom came to help 1st month. 

*Kiddos sleeping well. J eating well.

*Driving to almost Dallas to see total solar eclipse with KP

* AB hits a bday milestone

* W turning 3, swimming pool bday party. 

* Cancun babymoon with AB, W, brother

* MZ pass away after few years fight against diffuse midline glioma (DMG) of the brain.

* W goes to new preschool (Faith Lutheran)

* Weddings:  KeL and G (hcc friend), SeL and M (hcc friend), MeS and JY (residency and hcc friend)

* Spending a lot of time together because of paternity leave and PTO

* I changed from working 2 days a week to per diem (about 1 day a week).

* KP and brother visit.

*Visit Seattle for holidays with AB brother's family.  W saw snow for first time and went sledding. 

Pregnancy 3.0

This time, after finding out I was pregnant (10/2/23), we were super cautious mentally. Felt like we couldn't be happy and couldn't really monitor the pregnancy that closely. It felt like at any moment, I could have a miscarriage, and I didn't want to get attached or my hopes up. Waiting for my OB appointment to see if I can have more hope. But talking to others, it seems like so many things can go wrong with a pregnancy! 

I feel more nausea this time around. Is it because I'm more aware, my age, the foods I'm eating?...I don't know. 

Nausea started around 6-7 weeks. Man..some days it just comes out of nowhere. And I'm so sensitive to bad smells. Alan has to do all the cleanup in the kitchen and all the diaper changes in the evening. 

10/30/23 9 weeks

We finally had our first Dr appointment. And the ultrasound was ok - Thank God! Hearing the heart beat really made it real. 

11/8/23 10.5 weeks

So much nausea. Even though I'm taking B6 and doxylamine, I still vomited yesterday. Doxylamine makes me sleepy too. The fatigue has improved at least. I think I ate too much yesterday for lunch. And maybe again too much for lunch? Maybe need smaller lunch. Ugh....🤢. I'm so worried we are gonna be in Japan surrounded by delicious food and I won't be able to eat anything! 

11/29/23 13.5 weeks. 

Nausea is better. I still get nauseous if I eat too much at night, but not the same urge to vomit as before. 11 weeks was definitely bad, and riding the airplane also makes it bad. I think things were better when we were walking a lot in Japan, so I was still able to eat food in Japan. Exercise prob helps. 

Thank God chromosome testing is normal and found out baby is a boy! Haha, both Alan and I thought maybe a girl this time because symptoms so different, but you never know! We had a fun gender reveal where my brother picked the ornament with correct colored glitter and Alan hit it. 

12/2/23 14 weeks.

Still nauseous this evening. I think I need to exercise. But AB got COVID, so I'm stuck with Baobao full time now. I really should use Baobao's nap time more wisely! 

Good news is 14 week ultrasound is normal! Haha, he was moving quite a bit.

12/3/23 14 weeks. Extra nauseous today. Not sure why... Maybe the food? Alfredo sauce a lunch? Tomato sauce at dinner? Fried chicken church lunch at dinner. Yup...I vomited.  

12/8/23 almost 15 weeks. Man, I thought my nausea was getting better, tried stopping taking the nausea medicine (doxylamine + b6), but it's gotten worse, so restarted meds. Maybe too constipated? Maybe I'm eating too much again? 

Exciting news is Alan's brother is gonna have another baby too, but a girl! How exciting to have cousins around the same age!

12/16 16 weeks

Thought I felt baby moving at around 15 weeks. But maybe it was gas? 

Still some night time nausea, but not as bad. Eating fiber and miralax helps. Otherwise I still feel constipated and digestion is slow.

1/7/24 19w

Definitely feeling baby move more. Thankfully my nausea has gone away for the last few weeks. I can eat normally again! Yay! Sleep has been mostly ok. But still trouble with left back pain - can only mostly sleep on my right side. The pregnancy pillow was making it hard for me to sleep so I just decided to remove it. 

2/6/24 23w

Last few weeks I've been having issues sleeping. I also had woken up several days in a row burping a lot and with squeezing pain of my stomach (epigastric/sternum area)...which I later found out was because I was too hungry. Improved after eating more during the day...but it could have also been because I ate something bad? Anyhow I felt better each time after eating a bowl of cereal. But now I'm better...for now. 

I also feel super big now. I'm pretty sure I was this size at 28 weeks last pregnancy. 

2/16/24 25w

Should have talked to OB earlier, but the night time wakening much better after taking Pepcid/Tums after dinner. No more painful stomach squeezing and burping due to reflux. Sleeping better! Going to get my glucose tolerance test soon, so trying to eat low sugar/carbs.

3/21/24 29w

The 28w ultrasound showed baby went from 46 percentile to 18th percentile. Sonographer and ob didn't seem too concerned, but I didn't think the drop in percentile was very good. They said eating more wouldn't help...but I don't think it would hurt. Although the ob said it could be bad to gain too much weight.  But when was the last time I gained so much weight that it would be bad for pregnancy? When asked if due to marginal cord insertion found on the last ultrasound, they gave me a noncommittal answer that it's associated with poor growth. I was pretty sad and bummed about the ultrasound, and furthermore, AB didn't arrive till the ultrasound was done. Well, the only thing to do is look forward, pray, and eat. So...that's what I've been doing. But eating so much is making me feel stuffed all the time, and reflux is making feel uncomfortable at night. Recently my pubic symphysis dysfunction been hurting me too so much that during some of the appointments, I couldn't walk without supporting myself with my hands on a table. Maybe that day I sat too much on the ground or bad position. Doing some exercises seem to help a bit, and using good positioning. 

4/10/24 32w

Thank God the ultrasound went well! Baby up to 40th percentile weight! I was praying and eating a lot.  So many desserts and the opposite of when I was preparing for the gestational diabetes test. Not sure if the eating helped, but don't think it hurt.  Kp was visiting so she came to my appointment.  It was nice to have a friend there! The sonographer even showed us 3D models of the baby's face and it looked like W. 

Still having a good amount of pubic symphysis pain,  but the exercises help (toe tap, hip raises, rows on all 4, donkey kick,  squats, and abductor squeezes.  My reflux comes and goes, frequently needing pepcid or Tums. Ab had been a great husband,  taking care of W and the housework.  

5/7/24

We will probably decide on the name Jasper. It's been tough lately because of my cold. The coughing causes urinary incontinence and so much pressure. Also makes it hard to sleep. Man, this cough has been dragging on...

Sister in law recently delivered 4-5 weeks early.  Really puts us on high alert and so we packed our bag and put in the car seat. Thankfully baby and mom doing well! 

5/28

Lost mucus plug in the morning and spotting throughout day. Went to triage due to significant bloody show, no change after 1 hour , so got discharged at 3 cm. Didn't know was having contractions.  Didn't sleep much overnight, irregular contractions.  Next day appointment 4cm -1 station, told would deliver this week. Contractions more regular overnight , so went to hospital again may 30 at 1am. Contractions were pretty painful at thus point, so I asked for epidural immediately. Still took about an hour to get it with checking in, labs, etc, but thankfully I got it and it made everything so much more comfortable. I couldn't feel pain, but i could feel pressure and move my legs. We tried to sleep some, but there was constant beeping and people coming in/out. At triage I was 6cm, and when the ob Dr checked me, I was 7cm. He broke my water, and baby didn't like that much and had some decels. I had to adjust my position a bit, but not as bad as with W. At around 430a, I felt some pressure between my legs and turns out baby was already crowning and I was 10cm. I pushed 4 times (2 contractions), and baby came! He swallowed some amniotic fluid on the way out so they suctioned him and gave him a bit of oxygen. What a cutie with a head full of hair! He does look like his older brother, W. 

This time around I was so impressed with the epidural. Last time I couldn't move my legs, but this time it was just right so I could still kind of feel myself pushing. Also only 1 degree tear with 2 stitches, much better than 3A last time! Also pain afterwards a lot better. I was able to walk without assistance and without too much pain. 

J born 5/30/24 430a. 7lb13oz 19.5in

W 2.5-3y

 

3/21/24 2y 7mo

I keep on thinking how wonderful this age is. Yes, there are those tantrums here and there, but overall, this is the best age. W understands what we say, and he says things too...often time surprising us with new phrases. Sometimes he can be so sweet and generous. 🥰 I will miss this stage!

3/27/24 2y7mo

Cute phrases:

"Do you want to join us?"

"My belly button hurts"

"The banana in my tummy in there" 

Singing choochoo train song on repeat. Saying 3 dollars instead of "Y" When counting in Chinese, always skipping 11. When asked who he wants to pray for, he'll say "For W and Tuda."

4/24/24

When I try to get W in the morning now, he says "Go away!" "I don't want mommy!" It's because I have been a bad mom and not getting him in the mornings. Only ab has been getting him because I've been waking up late. 

W was trying to stand on the ledge half way up the bathtub and he slipped, fell, and hit his chin. He got a deep laceration on his chin, about a cm, but deep enough where I could see fat. Not wanting to go to urgent care or ER at night, I rinsed it with water and put steristrip on it. Unfortunately, the steri strip didn't stay well due to curvature of his chin and cheek and because he fell face forward in the sand and go the strip dirty. The strip fell off after 3 days with the laceration still gaping. I tried reapplying the steri strip and then put stretchy foam bandage on the steri strip and that did the trick to keep it on for 10 days from accident. When we finally took it off, the wound was healed and there was just a very small pink scar at the chin line.

5/25/24 

W is just finishing up his first year of school. We love his school and so does he. He has become quite an artist with all the art he brings back from school and also quite a chatterbox, frequently talking about his classmates. He likes to use scissors, but he hasn't figured out how to hold a pen correctly. 

5/30/24

W came to visit us when J was born. The presence of a 2 yo made everything much more lively, busy, and loud. He wanted to touch everything. 

W imitated J's hiccups.

Regarding J: "I want to take this home"

"I want to cover it."

6/6/24

When W does something silly to delay going to sleep, AB can't help but laugh and causes more delays. 

6/16/24

W developed a chalazion on his left lower eyelid statting 5/25. Was it because he is prone to it or due to sand getting in his eye, we will never know. We did warm compress inconsistently because he didn't like it...max 100 seconds each time. And then when J was born, we went maybe a week without addressing it and it got really big. Also developed a stye in the upper lid. Consulted my pedi ophthalmology friend and they said to do warm compress 4 times a day, 10 min, and also apply maxitrol (antibiotic/steriod ointment) for 2 weeks. A little fearful because of the steroid and potential risk of glaucoma. Thankfully the stye started expressing and after a week, the chalazion came to a head and started expressing a bit too. Now a little more than 2 weeks, it's much better, but there is still a residual red bump where the chalazion was and a pimple where the stye was.  

W has been very sweet with J. He wants to feed baby, burp baby, and put baby down. But transitioning to a new full time school (Christchurch) has been tough for him. First week he was sad to go because he missed his old school and friends. And then he stopped napping sometimes. Those days are rhe hardest because anything would set him off into a tantrum. 

6/30/24 almost 3y

Now j is 1 month, W has started some bad habits. Probably related to new siblings and school. He will want very particular things and if he doesn't get them, he will fixate and cry and tantrum. He's been dragging out bedtime. He will want one more book, and sit on the potty forever. Then want to wipe himself and with a square piece of TP. If not square, will repeated try to get one and waste tp. And when AB switched out the empty roll, he wanted the "small" tp roll back even though none are left. Another time he flushed, but then wiped, and got upset he couldn't flush his used tp with his poop. He wants to put on his sleep sack himself. Another day wanted me to put him in the crib instead of ab. And then wanted to wipe with a square paper towel, not a regular towel. These things drag on sleep so much..not sure how to address. 

7/19/24 almost 3y

W wants to be a firefighter or pilot when he grows up. He doesn't want to be a doctor anymore (which he wanted 2 days ago). He says he doesn't want to be a doctor because he is not sick. 

7/24/24

W just started his new school faith lutheran! We were a little anxious how it would go, but so far W likes it! It has more of a family/warm feel than the 2nd school he went to (Christchurch). More like his first school Westbury. We will always have find memories of Ms. Taffet!

Teacher Toni's description of him: 

W has been doing great on his first two days. He eats a little bit not too much. He is making friends and having loads of fun. He has not napped the past two days but he has been quiet. He informs me when he needs to use restroom and he is very independent. I also love his red hair. Glad he is a part of my class.

Haha! So funny she put the red hair in there! 

7/26/24

W picked out a Bible from the bookshelf.  He laid it on its side and tried to stand on it.  He asked "I stand alone on the word of God, the Bible?".

8/19/24

There have been more times when W says he doesn't want mommy or mommy go away or baba to get him out of the car/drop off. It's been hurtful and sad. Ab reassures me w still loves me, but it's hard to not think that he doesn't. It's because I've been more focused on baby j, so I haven't been doing as much bedtime reading or getting him when he wakes. It's so sad. I cried intermittently for a whole day. It happened before, but now it's really quite a lot. I almost feel like an outsider. 

Funny quotes:

AB: what can you fix?

W: Tuda, batteries, baba, dian feng shan.

Ab: Are you pooping or are you done?

W: I'm pretending to play

W: Go this way! (Making Ab and my brother go down the ramp instead of stairs)

W: Only peepee and poopoo in the potty. No toys in the potty. 

W: You are not a doctor, baba

W: to google: "How do you say bread in chinese?"

W: They are going to fix the fire hydrant! With tape!

On zoom, there's a person with their video off:

W: "Somebody hiding there"

W: "Mommy, you are so cute!"

At HEB: 

W: "This one for Wesley"

Sunday school teacher: "He has the most gentle soul."

W: "I have a question for you" ...then continues to stand there for a moment because he forgot his question. 

Ab: what are you doing?

W: I'm just rough housing. 

After watching my friend pump milk:

W: Mommy you are going to pump some milk

Ab: W, you are so cute!

W: I'm not cute

Ab: If you are not cute, what are you?

W: I'm a happy face

Ab: We are almost out of ice cream

W: We have to get some more from HEB

Ab reading book on vaccinations

W: "I don't want to get polio"  "I don't like measles"

W: Mommy, close your shirt! I see your belly! (Bc I'm pregnant)

W: baba, do you have a penis?

Grandma: you are a big brother now!

W: I'm not big, I'm still a baby

W: Baba, what did you do at work today? Do you play at work?

W: I'm going to go to HEB and work tomorrow.

Ab: Oh what are you going to do at work?

W: I'm going to play

W: I'm going to drive myself. And then go to Ariah's house, and play the bubbles outside. ...I don't know how to go, baba

W: You are so beautiful, mama! (Regarding a dress I'm wearing)

W: 3, 2, 1, time out! 

: Don't say no. ima throw you out 

Ab: who said that?

W: Ms. Jackie.

W: I pee peed! 

Ab: Outstanding!

W: I did not stand.

After doing some yoga together:

AB: I'm going to do the corpse pose.

W: Baba, wake up! 

W: Baba, when I'm big I can drive a car!

AB: you have to be 16!

W: Baba, are you 16?

The other day, W was singing the b-i-b-l-e song, and took one of the children bible books and put it on the ground, asked AB "I can stand on it?" As he put a foot on it. 🤣

W's new catch phrase: save it for to-rro-mow!

Ab: what music do you want to hear?

W: waterbottle music

Ab: uh...ok google, play waterbottle music

Google: *starts playing Bollywood music*

W playing with a bottle: 

W: a little penis can fit in there. A big penis will break it. 

*AB laughing*

Yw: I don't think it will break it, it'll get stuck.

W: It will get stuck and then it will be an emergency. The ambulance will come and cut it. Like paper. 

*AB laughing hysterically*

Hurricane Beryl and Baby2 (1month)

 

YW's mom left Friday July 5.  At first, we were just worried about getting through our first weekend alone, until Wesley's school would reopen on Monday.  LIttle did we know, we would need to watch both of them alone for 9 days, since Wesley's school would be closed all following week, due to a hurricane power outage.  How we survived:

1. Shift schedule overnight. YW would feed J around 9PM and again sometime between midnight and 2AM.  Then drop him off outside AB's room.  This way, YW could sleep a long stretch afterwards.  AB could sleep a long stretch from 9PM to hopefully 3AM.  We could catch up on additional sleep during Wesley's naptime, which thankfully was still 2-3 hours in the afternoon.

2. Playdates with our friends.  We stayed overnight at J/S house, so those new toys entertained Wesley for 2 days.  Also, playdates with EH, where their large number of toys entertained Wesley for 2 days.  Another day, Wesley went to our neighbor's house. Other days, we took Wesley to the park playground, church, or he was able to entertain himself at home.

3. Wesley's behavior improved significantly.  We think this was due to several factors:

a) Time getting used to baby J

b) Sometimes Wesley's behavior is better when fewer adults are present.  He no longer sees someone rush to respond to baby crying, or sees crying as an effective way to get attention.

c) He has been sleeping better: longer naps at home and quieter environment at nap time.  

d) We have tried to be more empathetic when he is frustrated.  We notice he calms down more when hearing "I'm sorry" and sensing empathy.  He tends to escalate temper when we are frustrated, authoritarian and/or argue.

Baobao 2y to 2.5 years.

 8/30/23

We decided to put Baobao in daycare. It's a Mother's Day Put program at the Day school at Westbury Methodist. It's 9-1p Tuesday to Thursday, but there is extended care before (7:30a) and after (to 6p), so works for our schedule. We are a little apprehensive because he's still so small, especially for his school year. 

He can put a 10 piece puzzle and the ABC puzzle together. He likes to try to sing songs like baba black sheep, ABC, happy birthday, Bingo, twinkle twinkle little star. Very cute when he tries to sing or talks to himself! He will try to sing and even tell AB to shhhh if AB tries to sing the same song too. He likes hearing stories from the curious George book. 

He's definitely in his terrible twos stage. Everything needs to be a particular way and done a certain way. He wants to walk himself everywhere or climb up himself. He doesn't want to be carried places. He wants to walk upstairs himself to go read. He will get fixated on certain pages of stories or certain picture in the book like "dudu" (a girls belly button), "poopoo" in the grandparent book when I joked there the frog had poop on it's butt. Also happy birthday sign on the find and seek book. 

His favorite song is Taylor Swift - Cruel Summer.

9/1/23

Beach trip #2 at Surfside! Baobao once again was the baby that enjoyed the beach the most. He would stay in the water and on the beach the whole day of he could. He tried to lie down and the waves would splash on his face.

9/14/23

Baobao started school! Well, last week was supposed to be first day, but got sent home after 15min because he had "pink eye" maybe...he did NOT have pink eye. Prob more like a stye. I would know. But the nurse didn't believe me. Sighs...required a doctor's note. So AB ended up working from home with Baobao. 

This week, when we asked him if he it was fun, he would say "Fun!" He would say some weird things though, like: "Baobao pushed ah yi, ta fall down, ta shen qi" (Baobao pushed auntie, she fell down, she angry). Not sure if this really happened... and then today he would very surprisingly and frequently point out this elephant stamp on his arm. When asked who did it, he would say ah Yi, but then later said himself. He seems to love school. He didn't even say goodbye to me when I dropped him off at school. 

He doesn't seem to eat at school though. Not sure if it's because he doesn't like the cold food (there's no microwave).

9/17/23

Baobao likes to point out the parents of his friends and say his friend's name. 

9/22/23

We went to San Diego. This time Baobao is much better on the trip. Didn't sleep much before, but he was well entertained with new toys and watching the Mario movie. 

10/2/23

Baobao is talking a lot more (not repeating us):

"Cut finger"

"Go ahead"

When asked what he did at the playground, he said: Huahua ti (slide), and qi ma (ride horse).

"Baby sleeping"

Zhan qi lai (get up). Ah Yi xia Lai (auntie come down).

Shui gou le (slept enough). 

He wants to do everything himself. And then gets upset when he can't. He wants to drink from adult cup. He can catch a little bit. He asks to watch baseball. He pretended his Peter Rabbit is sitting on the toilet (using his cup holder) "Tu-da la chou chou." So funny to see him pretend like pretending he's talking on the phone or eating things. He can sing the ABC's and he likes to sing along with other songs in the Baobao learns Chinese book (twinkle little star, mama hao, row your boat, etc). 

However, on our trip to San Diego and Seattle, he has had trouble sleeping. 2 nights he woke up at 3a, and few nights he refused to go to sleep. This makes us never want to travel. Strange it was all ok when we went to the beach, but that was just a few days and the first few days of travel were fine for him at the Airbnb. For nap time, we would put him to sleep, but then he would poop. And at night, he would cry and cry. 

"So cute!" Regarding a dog he saw in the park.

He likes to follow other kids around that are slightly older than him.  He kind of played with friend AW's kid at St Edwards park.

10/31/23

Today Wes went trick or treating as a baby Yoda. I was princess Leia and AB was Darth Vader. Many people said he was cute 🥰. He's probably confused why so many people giving him small things wrapped in plastic. 

He seems to really enjoy school. They do so many activities, especially painting and sensory things. There's always a theme each week. Only thing is he doesn't eat much there.

11/10/23 2y2mo

AB says Baobao's terrible twos are better now because he can express more. I'm still skeptical. But I suppose he is a little better. A little better at understanding what's going on and expressing himself. Now he seems to understand a little about time and a little about after this, you can have this. 

12/8/23 2y3mo

So we successfully dropped off Baobao for a week with my parents while AB and I went to Japan! It was really nice to be child-free. Man...all those child-less people - enjoy the time you have! Wish they could experience what it's like with a child, and then they can appreciate how wonderful child-free time is - but alas, that's not how life works. 

Other recent developments: 
-Baobao is able to rock climb up 9ft by himself. I'm quiet impressed. 
-He had his first performance: Christmas program at his school Westbury Methodist. 
-He went 2 whole days without napping. It worries us because we enjoy having alone time for 3 hrs a day. Really hope he doesn't stop napping. Thankfully he will sing for 2 hours. 
-He's able to count a little bit and recognizes a few letters. Not much though. 
-He will ask us some questions and remember things from a while ago. Like when I mentioned we are going to bouncy house, he remembered. Or one time out of the blue, he said airplane - mom and dad take airplane to Japan. 

12/23/23 2y4mo

We went to a rockets game and Baobao was so fascinated with the mascot Clutch. He really wanted to give him a high-five so he pushed through the people sitting in our row, quickly gave Clutch a high-five, and immediately turned around to come back to me without giving Clutch a second thought. He was very determined. 

1/9/24 2y4mo

Baobao is saying more things. Like "Put Tuda over here" and "Mama woke up!" (Chinese). He recently started saying "because..."  I wonder if he even knows what because means. When our friend B and M came over the other day, he was so sweet with M and wanted her to play with him all the time. 

But when he doesn't get a good nap like when he goes to daycare, then he gets frustrated easily and wants impossible or unreasonable things. Ah, so many time outs those days. 

1/15/24 2y5mo

First time Baobao successfully put on his pants without my help! (I just indicated to him which is back and there is a right hole and a left hole, one for each feet). 

1/31/24 2y5mo

First time Baobao said he didn't like someone (Naomi). We asked why if she pushed him down, and he said no. We asked if she took a toy, and he said, "she took a zebra." 

"Daddy, wear Baobao's shoes"

Jesus loves me song

2/6/23 2y5mo

We feel like these are the big milestones: 

4mo sleep through the night

13-14mo: one nap

26mo: talking more and communicating well, can negotiate

Also we did potty training a week ago and Baobao did so well so far! He had one accident the first day when he was eating breakfast, one at church on day 3, and hasn't had an accident till today he went to school and was playing too hard and didn't get to the potty on time (though he did pee mostly in the potty). So proud of this little guy! We followed the 3 day pdf that our friend sent, and it was great! Although we did keep the potty in the living room and we still used pull ups for naps and diaper for sleep at night. It really helped that he was already potty trained for poop (bc my parents thought he could do it when we visited in Nov), and we could tell when he was pooping so we could rush him to the potty. I did try putting him in underwear a month ago but he just peed in his pants while we were baking, so we it only lasted a few hours and I put him back in diapers. This time it helped that I had 2 of his friends over on Day 1 of training and one has just been potty training, so she was also going to potty.  And then everytime Baobao went to the potty, he got a standing ovation from everyone. Stickers also helped eat time. I was so impressed the first day, he even went to the potty himself on his own without even telling me (pulling down his own pants). 

I'm Chinese: "when we get to church, don't need Tuda"

Songs w likes to sing: Jesus loves me, old McDonald's (but gets stuck at old McDonald's has a farm), ABC (but says m o po Po p), twinkle twinkle little star, baba black sheep, open shut, ring around the Rosie, deep in the heart of Texas, skidamarinki, jingle bells. 

2/17/24 2y6mo

W is eating better. We start the meals with his favorite foods like Frenchies fried onions, and then he's willing to eat other prepared foods. Now he even asks to start eating sometimes. W also says he doesn't like certain things or certain people because they are scary or take his toys. We've moved his nap back to 2p. 

We made the decision to start him at a new school (Faith Lutheran teacher ratio 10:1) in the fall during newborn period for #2. Though we love his current school (Westbury Methodist, good teacher ratio 7:1, current class 6:2), the other one is closer, has lunch, fewer holidays, and opens later on Fridays. Also current school ext care shortening to 5:30p. 

Potty training has been going pretty well (needed to do it for him to attend new school - be 3 yo and potty trained). He has had a few accidents here and there esp when playing, but overall, he's doing well. Lately he would talk about his school, but we still don't know whether to trust what he says. 

2/19/24 2y6mo

W can spell his name! Nainai taught him.

Nainai: We are impressed with the progress Wesley has made in language since he started to put together words a few months ago. We noticed yesterday he chose to use a string of appropriate words very quickly. When the Choo Choo train had a piece detached again, even after I tried once to repair it, he said I can fix it. And he did. He first asked to have rubberband from Alan. He said I want some of them. Alan gave him less than he wants, he said I want all of them. That was very quick thinking. He dashed to mud room to wash hands

 I followed him behind, and in seconds, he was standing on the stool and reaching for the soap. I said he could wait for help, he said, very confidently, I want to wash hands by myself. And, for the record, he can spell Wesley when he is almost 2 and 1/2 years old

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Funny things about Baobao:

*Doing the wave a full 5 seconds after everyone else did it.

*Telling us to "go ahead" when he didn't want to eat dinner yet. 

*When our friend was looking for her son, Baobao said, "he's here!" Whole pointing to him.

*Ab was doing beep beep sound and laughing, and Baobao said "that's funny!"

*His favorite song on the radio is "Cruel Summer" by T swift, and he'll sing along

The other day he said "I love it!" Regarding vinegar.

Baobao said, "You ok baba?"

Baba: "I'm ok! Are you ok Baobao?"

Baobao: "No."

AB: "Silly Baobao!"

Baobao: "Silly baba!"

YW: "If you're good tomorrow, we can go on a train."

Baobao: "All aboard!"

He discovered his pockets and he filled them with acorns. 

Yw: where is little brother?

Baobao: in Baobao's ear!

Baobao: "Wesley drive!"

Pretend phone conversation with AB (2y4mo):

Baobao: "Hello baba!?" 

AB: "Hello Baobao!"

Baobao: "Are you busy?"

AB: "no I'm not busy, are you busy?"

Baobao: "Yes."

AB: "what are you doing?"

Baobao: "I'm eating." 

AB: "what are you eating?"

Baobao: "orange"

AB: "who gave you the orange"

Baobao: "baba. Bye bye see you later!"

Baobao: "here come another poopoo!" "Big poopoo today"

When W sat in baby rocker, AB asked: 

This is for didi

W: no, this is for W.

AB: but didi need to use it, is it ok?

W: We can share

2023 Highlights

* Playing HCCFL after COVID hiatus and now we have Baobao. 

*Rodeo first time with Baobao

*Going to brother's college graduation and JS's wedding in Vancouver.

*Brother visiting and KP visiting

*Labor day long weekend trip to Surfside 

*Baobao starting school 3 days a week and loving it

*San Diego for Alan's conference and friends

*Baobao going trick-or-treating for the first time

*Visiting Japan (Tokyo, Hakone, Kyoto) while parents took care of Baobao in Seattle.

*Teaching 6th graders at church

*Expecting another kid in June 2024

Japan: Tokyo, Hakone, Kyoto

 Guide we used: 

Japan
Guide: https://www.justonecookbook.com/ultimate-travel-guide-to-tokyo

Tokyo:
Day1
Made it with 2 hr delay in flight due to mechanical maintenance.
One of the first surprises was how quiet everything was. The subway, the bus, the stations - no one talked or made any noise. Also there are so many signs and directions everywhere. Everything is so clear, precise, and orderly. So much safety built in like emergency stop button for subway and arrows directing which side people should go up or down.
Hamaya: 

Special shisosio soba. Special oyster and clam oil sio ramen.

 

Our place was small, but it was very efficient use of space and very clean. It had a bidet! - nice to sit on a warm toilet haha!

Day 2
We had jetlag, so woke up at 4a and laid in bed. We decided to go to fish market. Got there too late for the auction (end 6:30a), but we got to eat some really fresh sushi at the restaurant area here:
https://maps.google.com/?cid=11798204809531068420&entry=gps

Sushi dai was completely booked when we got there, but this restaurant had no line! We had the chef choice 10 nigiri/sushi (4,950 yen) and donburi (rice with uni, fatty tuna, and roe 5,500 yen). My favorite was the uni (sea urchin) and otoro (fatty tuna belly) and Alan's was the salmon roe. The roe was a little too salty and fishy for me. The sardine was also a bit too fishy. And sadly my nose was a little stuffed so my sense of taste wasn't the best. Yet, it was still very delicious. Mmmmm, the uni was so creamy and melt in my mouth. We never had sushi for breakfast before, but that was awesome!

To Senso-Ji temple:
Front gate lantern is 1500lb.
Hozo-mon gate, also for storage of treasures for the Senso-Ji temple.
Lantern at gate is 900lb. "Thunder gate and incense vat". People will apply the smoke to body part needing healing.

Through Nakamise-dori street with small shops, traditional items.

 
Doves are messengers of goddess compassion.

Omikuji: pray, and pull out answer from one of the drawers.

Tokyo skytree:
Tallest stand-alone tower in the world.
450m observation hall. Going up to 350m is sufficient. Upper deck too hot and not much different.
Buildings far as the eye can see: and not just small buildings, but big ones too!.... It's amazing to see the most populus city in the world from high up.
Tokyo: 38 mill
Shanghai: 25 mill
New York: 19 mill
Clear day so we could see Mt. Fuji!

Ueno park:
We had lunch at ueno park Shinobazuno pond. There's a big food street/area outside of the park called Ameyoko market so we got take out there. But also someone was selling grilled squid near the pond. It was pleasant to eat by the pond. We then walked through the park to the art museum and reflection fountain. Didn't feel like going to the museum or zoo in the park. The leaves seemed like they were mostly done changing color too. Maybe spring with flowers would be prettier, but it was still a pleasant stroll.

Sanbaka restaurant dinner: 5 course:
1)
-Ohitashi and komatsuna (greens) and chrysanthemum flowers.
-Shungiku, mustard green with sesame dressing, and fish.
-Meat and potatoes (traditional Japanese food).

2) Yellowtail, sea bass, and snapper sashimi.

3) Tuna marinated in soy sauce on lotus root, cooked with sake. Topped with asparagus greens. Too salty overall.

4) Chawanmushi: Egg custard with dashi (soup stock), bonito, clam, seaweed. Yummy, like a soup.

5) Fermented soy beans, mascarpone cheese, nato. Kind of bland.

Akihabara:
So confused what's pop-up space and ensemble stars store??!!
Reminded me of time square, but it was all about anime!

A lot of claw machines, sell electronics. Not pictured: a lot of maid cafes (people dressed up)

Making Ramen

Cat cafe. Ah didn't get to go to Owl Cafe (real owls!)

Day 3:
Meiji Jingu:
Commemorate emperor Meiji and empress Shoken. Where they are buried.
1868 Meiji Restoration proclaimed Charter Path in Five Articles as new guidelines for building Japan as Japan changed from isolation policy of Edo Era to more Eastern influences. The Oath emphasized importance of making decisions based on general discussion, pursuing one's calling, uniting hearts to develop the nation, break harmful practices and gather knowledge from all over the world.

Chrysanthemum festival display

Bonsai Chrysanthemum display

Wine vs sake
Emperor tried incorporating western culture such as cutting his topknot, donning western clothing, and enjoyed wine.

 
Sake given up to dieties every year.

Shinjuku Gyoen national garden:
Previously belonged to the Edo Naito family, then transfered to the Imperial family. Has English landscape, French formal, and Traditional Japanese garden styles. 1949 opened as national garden.

 
Greenhouse: preserve seeds, orchids, Jacob's ladder.

Chrysanthemum festival still on display! Their national flower.

 
Tried to go to East gardens of imperial palace but found it was closed on Fridays! Google maps failed us! Also we tried booking Imperial palace tour 1 Mo in advance when it opened, but even 30min after website opened, it was all booked!

Shibuya crossing: largest crossing in the world!

It was raining, so not as big a spectacle

Sushi Tomi:
Nigiri set 2500 yen. Great sushi! Hole in the wall, traditional sit on mat if you go upstairs. We came at 5p and had the whole upstairs (small area) to ourselves. AB tried sake too.

Day 4: Hakone

Known for: onsen-manju (red bean bun), kamaboko (fish cake), Manju: flour bun with filling, red bean bread (anpan) from Yanagi Bakery. Didn't get to see Odawara castle and Yanagiya Bakery 柳屋ベーカリnearby. Wood mosaic.

We took Metro to Tokyo station, got the shinkansen (bullet train) pass at a machine. We got bento lunches for breakfast on the train. 

The bullet train was so fast and smooth! And there was a good clear view of Mt Fuji. Stopped at Otowara station, Hakone. Bought hakone free pass so all transport in Hakone is free for 2 days for 5000 yen (only 2 or 3 days options available) - turns out some buses still aren't included in the pass. We took train to Hakone-Yomoto station (can't get on the express train with Hakone pass), then another 40min train to Gora. That was such a steep ride, requiring multiple track changes.

Gora:
Open air museum 

Silliness

Free hot spring foot soak

Picasso exhibit: Jacqueline portraits. Married when he was 80, she was 34.

Took cablecar to Sounzan, but then found it out was too windy so the Ropeway was closed! Ah wish they told us when we were in Gora before we squeezed into a cablecar and slowly made our way up the mountain to Sounzan! We decided to take the alternative route to Owakudani: take bus to K and then walk up 30min to Owakudani. We had to wait 45 min for the bus be there first one was too full and the line too long. Thankfully when we walked, it only took 15min and we passed so many cars (traffic).

Owakudani:
We were so fortunate that when we got there, the clouds cleared and we got the most beautiful view of Mt Fuji! Thank God! Beautiful creation! 

Sulfer fumes coming out of the Owakudani volcano:

  
The black eggs up there were interesting... But they tasted like regular eggs. The shells turn black because they cook them in the volcano and the sulfur changes the egg shell black.

Most delicious black curry bun on left (maybe worked up an appetite walking up mt). R: black sulfur eggs.

These eggs are supposed to add 7 more years to my life. :D

We walked and then took the bus down to lake Ashi.

Lake Ashi:
The lake itself was pretty, but nothing special. The fun part was taking the pirate ship to the Southeast shore. 

I took too long in the gift shop and walked along the ancient forest trail. But then it was too late so we took the express R bus back to Halone-Yomoto station, train back to odawara, and then bullet train back to Tokyo. Had a nice meal at Casual Tappen (teppenyaki place). 

Day 5 Kyoto: Matcha capital, eat desserts.

Imperial palace and Garden:
Previously capital of Japan for 500+ years until 1869 Emperor Meiji moved it to Tokyo.
Kan-in-no-miya residence, now visitor center: lived here during Edo period. Kujo pond and tea ceremony house.

Imperial palace was destroyed by so many fires. And emperor had to live with noble families.
Can visit the palace for free on certain days via the seishomon gate (for servants). 

Carriage porch for courtiers. 

Waiting Rooms

New carriage porch (now emperor needs a bigger one for carriage and has to enter from south per tradition).

Shinshinden (Hall for state ceremonies), where emperora were enthroned.

Shukoden (Hall of the sacred mirror): mirror for enthronement ceremony kept.

Seiryoden (Hall for rites and rituals): also where emperor lived for a bit.

Kogosho: imperial meetings

Oikeniwa Garden: so serene.

Otsunegpten- imperial residential palace.

Couldn't get into Ruriki-on temple bc we didn't have reservation. But maple walk beautiful.

Jisho-ji temple:
Beautiful maples 

So many yummy snacks on the walk there. 

Philosophers path on the way to Nanzen-ji temple. 

Koun-ji temple with sunset in background.

Too late to go into Nanzenji temple. But pretty to look at from the outside. 

Took train to Fushimi Inari Taisha:
So many beautiful red gates-1000 of them!  Built in 1633 with no nails. 1/2 mile hike up hill, then 1 hr to top (we didn't go to top). At night the gates were lit, made for interesting experience. Names of businesses that sponsored the gate on back. Initially dedicated to Inari, god of crop and business and fox statues bc messenger of Inari. 

Day 6
Kinkaku-ji temple
Getting there was confusing. From the Kitaoji stop of the northsouth subway line, you have to go to blue platform underground to catch the bus (203, 204, or 205) to the temple. Follow the signs for bus and blue platform. We got to the temple before 9a and there was already a line to go in.

These statues reminded me of the offering statues in Zelda

Most important rock zen garden.

Smaller than I expected. Only 15 rocks. Why in the formation? No one knows...

Took trains not on our pass to get to Ashalawara.
Sooooo crowded. 

The street in front had a ton of stalls and restaurants, but there were so many people, every one of them required a wait. 

Yudofu takemura: fortunately only waited 2 min to be seated because someone just happened to leave. 

Tofu is their specialty

We found one tofu place a little less conspicuous on that street, and managed to be seated with 2min wait. We enjoyed a milticourse tofu meal. Interesting! We boiled our own tofu for 3 min. Ate tofu in lemon with miso. Had fried tofu ball (with wood ear, other things in it). Are another form of fried saucy tofu. And then enjoyed veggie tempura.

Arashiyama bamboo forest:

The forest itself was waaaaaay too crowded. Def try to go before 9 or else it's too crazy and hard to enjoy/take good pics. People mountain people sea.

Didn't get to ride in this train that Xiao recommended: Open train from ashi forest. https://www.japan-guide.com/e/e3965.html

Arashiyama Monkey Park
Macaque monkeys, 200 in the park. You have to walk 20min uphill, but it's worth it! The monkeys are out in the open, and you can go inside to feed them.

 
Interesting facts:
Their faces, butts, and breasts are red because of blood vessels, but the babies have lighter faces. They amhave sharp canines, but babies have no teeth, and later their baby teeth get replaced. They have cool 5th finger that help them grab tree branches. They can store food in their cheek pouches like chipmunks. Staring at them is an act of aggression.
They eat soil to help with intestinal diseases.
There were some baby monkeys that were so cute! Hard to feed them because the bigger monkeys chased them away.

We checked out Nishika Market. Wow, so many stalls and food stalls! It was really hopping. We are a lot of random foods here and there like octopus balls, wagyu beef, grilled scallop, fried crab, matcha ice cream and mochi. Mochi was sooooo soft.
Of note the market closes at 5p...I think?

We then went to Gion district, didn't really see any geishas, and everything was very commercialized, but it's still fun to walk through the lantern street. The lanterns at Yasaka-jinja shrine was pretty, and there were people ringing the giant rope bells. But it was a relatively small temple.

We then went to eat conveyer belt sushi. It was AB's first time and he was very intrigued. We were stuffed!

Day 7
Kiyomizu-dera

Beautiful temple with a massive cemetery southwest of it.

 
There's a beautiful pogoda.

The temple itself has interesting architecture, being built onto a cliff. The autumn leaves made the whole place really brilliant.

Fushimi Inari Shrine

 

We decided to go climb Mt Inari. Wow, sooooo many red gates. It prob took an hour to climb to the top, and then another half hour down. Phew...it was kind of tiring. Throngs of people and kind of hard to get a good picture without people.  Wish I had known there is a route back down towards bamboo forest. We went off path at Fushimi Inari Taisha and found our way to Kobogataki Falls, and then a bamboo forest farther south. Fun to wander away from the crowds. 

Fukakusa Ramen Toriton 

Yummy! A bit salty. 

Byodo-in

Beautiful temple surrounded by water with nice museum detailing interior decoration and meaning. 

Gohan-ya: Izakaya $$
Online it said there's a set menu, but turned out no set menu and everything in Japanese. There was one server who spoke some English, so we asked for his recommendation, and then picked a few off the menu with Google translate camera. Should have stuck with picking off the pictures on Google. The ones we picked off the menu were so-so: radish greens salad, dried squid. The oden soup was pretty good. The recommendations were really good: sashimi (yellow tail, red snapper, flounder, salmon, tuna, 10 piece), grilled mackerel that was marinated in miso for a day.
Funny part was we didn't have a good idea of the price bc we asked for recommendations, and I estimated about 10,000 yen. When we got the receipt, I thought it said 29,000...we were so surprised but accepted it was our last fancy meal. Then turned out I missed the first number, so it was actually 8,290. Went from most expensive meal to prob the best deal. We were stuffed!

Day 8
The Osaka station is sooooo crazy. Walking for 10min, and we are still in the station. Also like Tokyo and Kyoto station, tons of shops and restaurants.

We had time for a brief stop at Osaka Castle (open too late for us to go in 9am):